Yoga is Like Sex

Yoga is like sex. You can read about it, hearmyself to keep going back to yoga class twice a
about it, and watch other people do it, but untilweek for a month. No judgments, no analyzing,
you experience it first hand, yourself, you don'tno deciding "like it or not." So I pre-paid the
really get it. So what's the excitement all about?classes and took my body to yoga class. After
Why is yoga showing up everywhere from autothat month, I was hooked. I highly recommend
ads to executive meetings? Why are airlinesthis approach... It changed my life.Once you get
presenting it to their passengers and why is ityourself into yoga class, the next biggest
featured on Oprah? Kids are doing it in schools;challenge is self-acceptance. A yoga teacher of
buff athletes are doing it, even pregnant womenmine once said, "Begin where you are and stay
and the wheelchair-bound. There must bethere." Wise words, and a big relief! After all,
something very seductive about yoga!If you dothere's no other place to start than by accepting
yoga, you know that it's seductive. That deliciousourselves right where we are and realizing that
feeling of stretching from the inside out; thatwe'll never be exactly there again. Every yoga
soothing sensation like warm honey flowingpractice is different because we are different,
through energized limbs; and the "big payoff" atday-to-day, and minute-to-minute. One of the
the end of a practice: floating away into thebasic lessons we learn from a yoga practice is not
infinite. You can't access this in pictures, and yogato judge ourselves. For most of us, that's a hard
isn't a spectator sport. The real experience is onlyone. Our culture trains us to be competitive. We
available to you if you actually do yoga.Yoga iswant to compare ourselves with each other, with
not just about the beautiful bodies of diehardthe teacher, and especially with our image of
yogis and yoginis, although fitness is definitely onewhat we think we should be able to do. If you
of the major payoffs, yoga is a path to thatwant to enjoy your yoga practice, judge not!
illusive center we are all seeking...it's a path to innerWatch yourself from the inside; explore the
peace. We're being drawn to yoga by thesensations and the new feelings. Experience
thousands because we need it; we crave whatyourself from the inside out.Another big hurdle is
yoga offers and deeply need the body-mind-spiritovercoming the goal-oriented, "Type A"
connection we experience when we practice thepersonality approach to yoga; the attitude that
5000 year old art of yoga.Increased strength andthe body must conform to perfection and each
flexibility, relief from headaches, back problems,pose must be the textbook ideal. Give it up! Not a
sleep troubles, and stress related issues; deepgood idea for a number of reasons. First, no body
relaxation, feeling energized, powerful, peacefuldoes perfect poses. Not even the teacher, even
and centered... Sounds good? These are only athough you may think so initially. There is no
few of the myriad benefits of a yoga practice.perfect pose. Yoga is a process, not a goal. The
Life is so much easier when we feel comfortableperfect pose for your body is different from the
in our bodies, relaxed in spirit and come from aperfect pose for my body, or for any other
peaceful place of power within. Our days becomebody. The pose that is most integrated and
more enjoyable and more relaxed. Ourbalanced, that give you the best stretch and
relationships become deeper and more sensitive.honors your body's limits... that is your perfect
The world seems to be more manageable and,pose.Secondly, yoga is a process of unfoldment.
rather than reactive, we become positivelyThe symbol of yoga is the Thousand Petaled
proactive.Many people first come to yoga forLotus that keeps opening its petals deeper and
physical reasons. They want to find relief fromdeeper toward its center. Every time you do a
back pain or they want to lose weight. They seepose, it will be a bit different, you'll do it at a
the external benefits of a yoga practice, but likedifferent level and from a different place within
sex, the internal experience is what keeps themyourself. Allow for those changes and patiently let
coming back for more."This all sounds good," youyoga bring you to deeper levels of each pose as
say, "but I haven't bent forward and touched thetime goes on. After a while you'll discover that
floor since I was 12. Sure, seems like a good thingthe real yoga isn't about the external form of the
to try, but I haven't exercised since high school!poses, it's about how you move the energy in
I'd be embarrassed to be seen in those tight yogayour body to create them from the inside
clothes... or worse, in a yoga class. I'd make a foolout.And third, honor your body. It's not about
out of myself!" I've heard it all... and there's alwayspushing to your limit in every pose. You'll really
a way. Don't allow your chattering mind or yourregret that the next day! Yoga shouldn't hurt, and
fragile ego to keep you from discovering theit's an inside job as to whether or not you'll
treasures you'll find through yoga. Yoga isexperience pleasure or pain. You are in control
accessible to everybody. All you need to do ishere. The teacher talks, you do the yoga with
make a decision to go for it.Regardless of youryour body. Just as we resist psychologically when
physical ability, yoga can be adapted to bewe get pushed too far too fast (Oh yeah? Just
accessible to you. If you are physically challenged,try to make me!), our bodies resist as well. So
you can do yoga seated in a chair. Even thosehonor your body's limits, don't push; allow, breathe
who are bedridden can do yoga and we can alland soften into the poses.Keep in mind that there
benefit greatly from "pranayama," the yoga ofare as many different forms of Hatha Yoga (the
the breath.Too busy? Weave it into your dayphysical path of yoga) as there are yoga
with seated stretches at your computer, in theteachers. Every teacher has a unique teaching
airplane, or while standing in line at the bank. Yogastyle, approach and attitude, even if they have
can be subtle, internal and powerful. As you mightbeen trained in the same yoga lineage. It's
suspect, I never take "No" for an answer. There'simportant to shop around for a teacher who is
always a way to do yoga.Here are a few tips towell trained and one who inspires you. Find the
ease your entry into the world of yoga:The firstteacher that suits your style and don't be afraid
step is commitment. My first yoga class was ato go to different classes and change teachers as
rude wake-up call. Every injury I'd ever had wasyou develop your yoga practice.Yoga is an
talking to me. I thought I was in pretty goodamazing journey of self-discovery. The way you
shape at 44, but my body's ability to do thoseapproach your yoga practice is a microcosm of
poses was beyond discouraging... I hated it. Therethe way you approach your life. It's a truthful
was voice inside my head that screamed, "Getmirror, a deep learning and exploration into the
me outta here!" But there was a more persistentdepths of the soul. I wish you blessings on your
little voice inside of me that said, "You don't haveyoga path and light in your journey back to your
to like this, just do it." I knew, on some level, thatmost beautiful, authentic self.
I'd be really sorry if I quit so I made a deal with